In the past, power was in the hands of the strongest. Later on, it was with the wealthiest. But now, it is with the person who has connections. Let’s not bother with the accuracy of my statements but delve into subtext. Some may agree with it, and some may not. But, it’s not our conscience that dictates the rule — it’s the society. Let’s face it, connections with the upper echelon make life one hell of a lot easier. Well, that’s what father said — I didn’t get any of it, even a tiny-weeny bit. 

So, he said that “you should make as many connections as possible during your college”. Well, he has a point, but he was not entirely correct. That’s what I came to know. We need good people around us as a person’s worth is decided based on the people around him in this society. We can’t associate with everyone we come across, and it’s more true during our college days. One wrong move, and it’s all in the gutter. Relationships can be so fragile more than glass. And it’s not like we can be alone — that’s just branding ourselves an outcast. It will be one depressing hell to live in as a society.

 After realising that, I was confused about what to do or how to approach others. We need to come off as a guy approachable but not overbearing, a yes man but not a pushover, dependable but not transactional, a caring but not over the top. That’s one hell of a list to pack. So, how my friend did it, I am going to share it with you. Not me — I am an introvert — he is an ambivert. 

Firstly have an ice breaker with as many people as possible, which will give a basic understanding. Don’t mind coming off as weird in future it will bring a good laugh.

Once that is done, you will subconsciously associate with them you want to be with. From there, it’s just building a good bond. But that doesn’t mean you have to be selective, and it’s important to maintain a connection with everyone from whom you can learn something. And avoid those who are toxic with a handshake. 

It is important to be polite as well as assertive when needed and be grateful for the favour received and return it with a return favour, as any relationship builds on give and take. And try to form a win-win situation. When you have a strong network you will become a connector, connecting one person to another, which enables you for every information and can expand your network.

And, this is most important to never lose a connection and try to reconnect. Every relationship expects a follow-up. Don’t limit yourself to only your class or department or college try to connect with as many people as you can. You can even use social media like LinkedIn and be patient in building relationships. Be a person who can be dependable to others and an advisor in their tough times or a shoulder to lean on. 

I hope that this article reached everyone who wants to break out of their shell.