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[{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580313","data":" What\u2019s the thing that makes us happy? Really, what is the secret? <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580314","data":" People get sad, shit happens, that\u2019s normal; it\u2019s part of life. But how do you fix that? How do you get happy?<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580315","data":" Lying in your bed with your teddy and watching a heart-melting movie eating a half liter of vanilla ice cream? Well the movie ends, then what? <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580316","data":" Reading a good book? That distracts you for a while, but you eventually get back to reality.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580317","data":" Listening to music and thinking about your crush? That feels awesome for a while, but it doesn\u2019t end well.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580318","data":" Going out with friends, watching a movie, eating great food together and having endless laughs? That\u2019s great! But\u2026<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580319","data":" All these things, and countless other ways people try to make themselves happy, they are all merely means to give ourselves a temporary feel-good moment. But when you think about it, they don\u2019t really fix the problem. They don\u2019t fix our reason for sadness. They are \u2018bandages\u2019. It\u2019s okay to use them, but using them alone? How long?<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580320","data":" So what is it that makes us happy? What is it that keeps our mind at peace 24\/7? Is it even possible? Or is it the way it\u2019s supposed to be? I mean, there\u2019s day, and then there\u2019s night. As the book \u201cThe Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck\u201d by Mark Manson says, it is important for us to have problems. Because that\u2019s what gives us a reason to live, to improve. He says we shouldn\u2019t avoid pain, but accept it. Well, how do we do that? Clearly watching movies, hanging out with friends, music\u2026 These are ways we avoid the problem. That won\u2019t keep us happy in the \u2018long term\u2019.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580321","data":" The answer I\u2019ve found is that, to be happy, we need to \u2018accomplish\u2019 something. Yep, reading good books, studying for exams, making new friends, improving our relationships, meeting new people, etc. Just, \u2018getting things done\u2019, that\u2019s what makes us happy. Get moving! And to an extent, I felt this was it! This was how I could feel good about myself. Maybe I wasn\u2019t happy because I wasn\u2019t proud of myself. No, laughing all day with friends and having a great time all day, every day, doesn\u2019t mean you are happy. At the end of the day, when you face yourself in the mirror and think about yourself, if you are not who you want to be, then what the hell are you doing? <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580322","data":" So of course, in order to be happy, I need to become the person I want to be! Right? I mean, wouldn\u2019t I be happy if I scored excellent marks? Wouldn\u2019t I be happy if I could run a 10k in less than 40 mins? Wouldn\u2019t I be happy if I could make great friendships and be with the people I like? Wouldn\u2019t I be happy if for once my parents could be proud of me? Wouldn\u2019t I be happy if for once I didn\u2019t disappoint the people (including me) who have hopes from me? <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580323","data":" So yeah, by making myself a better person, I would be happy, right? It may be right, but not entirely. What if it\u2019s not the only thing that\u2019s required?<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580324","data":" Today I had a deep feeling of moving to Madinah for a month. Just, \u201cpack up and roll up my sleeves\u201d, and leave. Just for a month. No more constant feelings of \u201cdoing the right thing\u201d, or making the right decision, fear of failure, or fear of disappointment, or fear of rejection. No more trying to win. No more trying to improve myself. No more of the constant battle with my addiction. Just\u2026 peace. For a month. No contact with anyone in my life. I could \u2018disconnect\u2019 with this life. No more thinking about what others think about me. No more of \u201cwhat do they want from me\u201d? No studying, no expectations, no responsibilities. Just\u2026 peace! Thinking about it, it feels like\u2026 \u2018floating\u2019! I could spend a month in peace and serenity in that beautiful city. Go to the mosque and lie there. I really loved going there as a kid. Never thought I\u2019d miss it\u2026<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580325","data":" But! No matter how tempting that sounds, it\u2019s just \u2018running away from your problems\u2019, isn\u2019t it? But I must have had that desire for a reason. From Erica Spiegelman\u2019s book \u201cRewired\u201d, I realized Solitude is important for the well-being of a human. I guess I just need some solitude? Or maybe I\u2019m just feeling \u201cstuck in an endless loop\u201d of this life.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1537698580326","data":" Or maybe I\u2019m just bored. <\/p>"}]

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