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(WARNING : Harsh content! You might not like it, so read it on your own risk)<\/p>\n
\"Failure is the first step towards success\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cFailure is the best teacher\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cFailure is not falling down, but refusing to get up\u201d<\/p>\n
Typical definitions of failure, aren\u2019t they? But let me tell you, none of the quotes mentioned above define \u2018failure\u2019. They define the people who were determined to achieve success.<\/p>\n
Then, what actually is failure?<\/p>\n
Failure is nothing but an inability to work up-to the required limit. If you\u2019re one among those who failed, then it\u2019s not because you are on your journey of success. It is simply because you did not put in much effort. Failure can be remarked as your \u2018Journey to success\u2019 after you\u2019ve achieved your goal, but right now, it simply means \u2018YOU DID NOT WORK HARD ENOUGH\u2019. You\u2019d probably be asked the reason for your failure, right? Who would you say is responsible? Your teachers? Your education system? Or would you say circumstances were such that you couldn\u2019t study?<\/p>\n
I would say NONE. It\u2019s you. Yes, only you are to be held responsible. No one else is. It was your own headache. Why would anyone else jump into your pool for no reason? Now don\u2019t plan for suicide saying \u2018I quit\u2019 or anything else just because I told you were responsible. Ending your life might end your part of problem, what about your parents? Why give them the punishment when you are at fault? Live life and bear it yourself. You can\u2019t die in peace when you know your death is torturing someone else. It was your parent\u2019s job to get you admitted in a college, their part of work is done. It was your teacher\u2019s job to teach you, they did. Now don\u2019t you dare say that your teachers weren\u2019t good enough to teach you everything. You were supposed to be attending all of their classes in order to learn the lessons. Did you do that? If you did that, you would have at least got passing marks!!! If not, then stop blaming them.<\/p>\n
The whole and sole reason you failed, is because you did not give as much time as it was demanded. So, sitting in a corner and crying is absolutely of no use. It is not going to help you even slightest of a bit. If you\u2019re so concerned about it, then skip the crying part and start working for it. Stop blaming someone else for your loss. If you can\u2019t give credits to someone for your success, then don\u2019t even dare to blame someone for your failure. You always have a chance to mend your mistakes. Opportunities won\u2019t come your way if you keep stumbling over the same mistakes again and again. Accept you are liable for your failure but don\u2019t let yourself drown in dismay. Your failure was meant for you realize something. It was for you to understand that the amount of work done was insufficient, and you need to work even harder to be successful. Just making up plans and sticking to it for a couple of days won\u2019t help. Consistency is important.<\/p>\n
\u2018But there are circumstances when I can\u2019t study\u2019<\/p>\n
Ever heard about Stephen Hawking? He can\u2019t even move himself an inch and yet he is one of the most successful people on earth. What could be worse than being paralyzed for life? Any other excuses?<\/p>\n
Come on, it\u2019s your life. No one is going to live it for you. You work hard, you reap the fruits. If you don\u2019t, then it\u2019s your fault. Failure would never be your \u2018path to success\u2019 but it\u2019ll be a little part of your success if you learn the lessons taught by your failure. Now, it\u2019s your decision to either jump off and fall or jump off and fly.<\/p>\n"}]
She eventually started drifting from loneliness which silently made her mourn in grief to live without a person who gave her life. She now knew she was never alone because her dad promised her to be the light in dark and the shadow in light. <\/p>
\n\nShe was standing still yet the ground was wobbly, now she was more stronger than before, <\/p>
\nYes she did lost her self, but that was just a piece of her soul which she couldn\u2019t replace. <\/p>
\n\nNow she knew things wont be done as a word said.<\/p>
\n\nWhenever she missed her greatest support she gazed at the garlanded portrait and whispered these lines,<\/p>
\n\n\u201cYou taught me to walk,<\/p>
\nyou gave me wings, you helped me fly, you fulfilled all my dreams,<\/p>
\n\nyou helped me learn,<\/p>
\nYou gave me strength, <\/p>
You taught me to forgive and forget,<\/p>
Maybe there will be no one who ll love me more than you for what I am. <\/p>
\nYou never let me down whatever the circumstances. <\/p>
\n\nFrom buckling my shoe to dressing my hair, \n\nyou are the reason for me to live happily. <\/p>
\n\nI know there were days i made you cry and broke you but you are the most precious gift i received from GOD. <\/p>
\n\nProud to be your daughter daddy.\u201d<\/p>"}]
It took me a lot of time to gather my thoughts for this movie. <\/p>
Beneath all the supposed 'vulgarity' our society accuses Arjun Reddy of having, beneath the 'bad words' that supposedly made it popular with Telugu speaking youth, beneath the straight to the point nature of the film, Arjun Reddy is a movie that is peerlessly honest. In all my years of watching Telugu cinema, which I admit took a backseat for a long time because the industry had begun to bore me with the same cliched storyline over and over again, I have never come across a movie so brutally honest, so down to earth with characters that talk, walk and behave like real people do. Arjun Reddy is a window to the life of another person, except this window is real and what you see before you on that screen is a story that could have really taken place in real life. <\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503825619760","data":"59a29bc0e0eff"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503825622158","data":"
At its core, Arjun Reddy is a story of the redemption of a man who has hit rock bottom and stayed there for so long, he made rock bottom his home, his palace and of course, his personal prison. It is the story of a man trapped in his own memories and looking for the next fix to keep his mind from the misery of his existence. It's the story of suffering, unapologetically honest and brutal suffering that all of us who have gone through a breakup can identify with, and although we may never hit rock bottom as hard as the titular character Arjun Reddy did, we can certainly identify the elements that took him there. <\/p>
Devarakonda Vijay Sai's performance as Arjun Reddy is easily the best in recent times, I could go on to say he is the best Telugu actor in the industry as of this moment. The pain and suffering he portrays on screen, central to Arjun's character, could not have been pulled off by anyone else except this actor who is barely 3 films old, with Arjun Reddy being his fourth venture. Indeed, any high praise that comes the way of Vijay from this movie would be an understatement considering his performance and the sheer iron will to stay committed and in character for the entire movie. In the words of a friend, Devarakonda Vijay seems to make suffering a poetry. Growing up in a privileged home, Arjun's isolation with the social injustices of society are made apparent as the movie progresses. His free spirited nature and his utter disregard for societal conventions is a microcosm of the movie itself, a point which I will return to momentarily. <\/p>
Shalini Pandey, the female lead who plays Preethi, is not one the industry would consider 'glamorous' and that is precisely what makes this movie so realistic and grounded. Unlike most Telugu films (or even Hindi films for that matter) where the 'heroines' look over glamorous, over sexualised and over reacting to everything around them, Shalini's portrayal of Preethi is, in the simplest form, real. Preethi looks like just another person you would see on their way to college, a normal woman who falls in love, makes love, studies and lives and breathes. <\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503827461696","data":"59a29be2c2d74"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503827464407","data":"
It is difficult to believe that this is director Sandeep Reddy Vanga's first movie. Scenes are abruptly cut, there are close up shots that evoke the sense of intimacy and tenderness, there are even sequences shot without a single cut that left us absolutely enthralled, especially a scene in the second act of the movie which involves Arjun going to a hostel on his motorcycle. The entire hostel sequence was shot without a single scene cut, it is one continuously long shot that is gratuitously satisfying to watch. If Sandeep Reddy can do this with his first film, I cannot wait to see how he matures as a director going forward. <\/p>
Much like the rest of the movie, even the characters of the movie are as real as the leads themselves. Arjun's best friend Shiva and the rest of his gang are your friends, they talk and behave like yours would do in real life and that is precisely why this movie is so great. I know I've been repeating that for about all of this write-up, but that's just how amazed I am with the movie, and why it is so effective. <\/p>
This is a movie that breaks every cliche of the Telugu film industry, it laughs in the face of the cliches and has nothing but utter contempt at the prudes in our society. Arjun and Preethi celebrate their love like any other real couple does, there is no being coy, there is no beating around the bush. Arjun respects Preethi for who she is and the feeling of trust and respect is only reciprocated by Preethi when she finally opens up to him. Shalini does a wonderful job here, turning from a meek young girl to a woman who isn't afraid of being who she is around Arjun. She isn't just some damsel in distress, she has a life, a story of her own and a world of her own, which is more than I can say for other Telugu movies in which actresses exist only for a couple of songs and some eye candy. <\/p>
Even the final act of the movie, which has divided those who have watched the movie with a difference in opinion, was done in the same style as the rest of the movie. While the ending might seem too good to be true when you consider the larger scheme of things, the way it is handled is absolutely perfect. <\/p>
Baahubali 2 pushed the boundaries of what is possible in a Telugu movie but is Arjun Reddy that defines the future of the industry. Arjun Reddy has shown us that a debutant director with a fairly new lead actor and a completely new actress can break every known cliche and convention of the Telugu Film Industry and make a movie so raw, so unapologetically real and grounded, it becomes a benchmark. <\/p>
And benchmark it is, for after this every movie will be compared to Arjun Reddy. A new dawn rises for Telugu cinema where it has now been proven, without the shadow of a doubt, that truly great movies containing real people in them can be made, putting the products of nepotism that currently infest the industry and their fans to shame for once and for all. I simply cannot recommend this movie enough. <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503829094903","data":""}]
I got a seminar tomorrow. My ppt is ready. I am fully prepared. I practice my seminar in front of the mirror a dozen times. Yes ,I am confident.I can do it. <\/p>\n
Next day, in the seminar hall i stood infront of my audience like a stone blabbering shit unrelated to the content , thinking about what others will feel after I complete my seminar.Will I be able to give it again ?. Finally it was over. I breathed a sigh of relief. But did i succeed? <\/p>\n
It is a NO in bold letters. Most of us went through this. We don't go forward in many sitiations only to hide ourselves and letting our fear win over us always. Fuck it dude. You are much better . Yeah , you will fail a million times , but one day will come where people will look upon you with expectations. If you want that day to happen in your life , you gotta be fearless. <\/p>\n
Speak up. Stand up for what u think is right.Don't care if u got support behind your back or not , because people behind your back will always remain there .You have to be in the front. Become a leader.Become a role model.Have fan following. Life seems so beautiful then.Let people talk about you.Let it be negative or positive, but you are their topic.That's what matters.<\/p>\n
I would always suggest, doesn't matter if you loose or win , tweak your moustache and keep your head high. Give shit to people who talk shit about you. <\/p>\n
You are the hero of your life. Live a life that you deserve. \n<\/p>\n"}]
1. PRAGATHI TIFFIN CENTER :<\/b><\/p>
Skip your breakfast and take an early morning stroll in the Pragathi gully. Something tickles your senses and the next second you'll find yourself in front of an array of mouth watering treats like idlis, dosas etc... Pragati Tiffin Center rightly shows why they master in Paneer Dosa. While comparing with other Bandis the varieties offered here are less but they set a bold statement when compared to the other food standards. <\/b><\/p>
Get your plate and just sit under the tree and dig into your Dosa. Wow feeling assured<\/b><\/p>
Address :Opposite Pragathi College, Sultan Bazar, Hanuman Tekdi, Koti, Hyderabad<\/b><\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503647960547","data":"599fdd323d075"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503656599474","data":"599ffcde31b0c"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648989319","data":"2. TIBBS FRANKIE :<\/b>It is one of the best street food in Hyderabad located in the upscale locality of Himayatnagar<\/b>. The well-cooked chicken blended with the right spices and a layer of egg makes it a perfect option for street food enthusiasts. Believe me or not you 'll have the perfect lip smacking pocket-friendly Frankie's over here. <\/div>Address :<\/span><\/div>Manyavar Showroom, Opposite Galaxy Cafe, Himayath Nagar, Hyderabad<\/div>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503649229694","data":"599fde74b4ce0"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503657073345","data":"599ffcd617c99"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503649480957","data":"3. KATHMANDU MOMOS:<\/b>I certainly believe there isn't any place other than Kathmandu momos which serve such yummy momos. It is a tiny stall located on the busy roads of Somajiguda but is simply incredible for its quality and taste. The spread of word can do wonders to a place like this.<\/div>Address :<\/b><\/u>Opposite Yashoda Hospital, Raj Bhavan Road, Somajiguda, Hyderabad<\/div>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503649315822","data":"599fe27c10a9e"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503650379073","data":"4. MUJTABA GRILLS :<\/b>You'll probably have the best shawarma of your life here. Shawarma is grilled, the chicken is crisp and yum. Though they serve other dishes it is popular for its Shawarma.<\/div>Address :<\/u>Plot 1, Gun Rock Enclave, Janakpuri Colony, Karkhana, Secunderabad<\/div>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503651257731","data":"599fe68483a3a"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503651376780","data":"5. CHACHAJI WADAPAV :<\/b>If you want to taste food from different states in Hyderabadi style then you have to visit Sindhi Colony in Secunderabad. You'll find many stalls which excel in serving Bombay chat, Chinese, Italian, Punjabi Pao Bhaji's etc. One such place for Wadapav cravings is Chachaji Wada pav. This is a tiny little stall which is known for its Wada pav and Dabeli. <\/div>Address <\/b>:<\/u>Near Satguru Complex, Beside LOT Mobile, Sindhi Colony, PG Road, Secunderabad<\/div><\/div>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503656357919","data":"599ffa0f64ace"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503656722516","data":"599ffb72ea24d"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503657464221","data":"Apart from these, there are also few well-known places like Gokul chat, Alpha hotel near Secunderabad railway station, Sardarji's Chat , Famous ice creams in Mozamjahi market. What are you waiting for?! now go on and tickle you taste buds.<\/div>"}] {"cover_pic":"https:\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/599fc597757c3stryimg","category":"Events","is_vip":"0","title":"71st Independence day at NMREC","title_id":"71st-independence-day-at-nmrec","isEdit":0,"isAdmin":0,"authorFullName":"Saurav ","authorUserName":"saurav2","authorProfilePic":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/5985dedb86211profilepic","authorMagzName":"NMREC","authorCity":"Hyderabad ","like_count":63,"cmnt_count":4,"type":1,"isApproved":2,"publishedInName":"NMREC","publishedInLink":"nmrec","publishedInLogo":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/597f7248b8893profilepic","publishedInCode":"nmrec","country":"IND","keywords":"Independence day,NMREC","isBookingEnabled":0,"privacy_status":"1","url":"https:\/\/www.stumagz.com\/71st-independence-day-at-nmrec\/","has_form":0,"is_appln_closed":0,"max_no_of_applns":0,"likeStatus":0} [{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503641584941","data":" Independence Day is a national festival and has equal importance for every Indian regardless of religion, class, creed or race. The way of celebrating is also the same throughout the country and that is the day,when you find whole India celebrating and rejoicing.<\/p>There was a time when Indians were not aware of the problems going on in the country and the society. But today the younger generation of India has come forward and many raise their voice against the problems in the society.<\/p>The most important thing is that we remember and pay respect to those who sacrificed their lives for the country.<\/p>Children look forward for this event because they expect sweets at the end of the celebrations. We being adults, we need to realise the importance of national festivals and make it a point to participate and feel proud as a citizen.<\/p>On this national holiday , there is a scene of joy, pride and rejoice everywhere. Many programs will be conducted which will bring out our patriotic spirit hidden deep within us.For students, this is a great platform to showcase their talents in these events which is an opportunity to convey a strong message to the audience and empathize with them reminicing the fights we fought and the victories we had and the heroes we lost.<\/p><\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503641993609","data":"599fc2f60b386"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642295582","data":" The 71st Independance day was clebrated with great enthusiasim. The event started by the arrival of our Secretary Sir Nalla Malla Reddy garu and his wife,our Chairperson, Shri. Kethi Reddy Sandhya Vali Garu. The flag was hoisted by our chairperson followed by the singing of the national anthem by the choir group and the entire college. There was a voluntary participation by the faculty to sing a patriotic song. The English faculty from the department of MPS\/HSS, Mr.Jitender sir, sung a telugu song and explained its essence beautifully followed a soulful performance by Mr.Balram sir from the Mechanical engineering Dept. <\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642302436","data":"599fc36fc3776"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642419235","data":"599fc3946be5c"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642403185","data":" Everybody proceeded to the seminar hall where Pavithra of CSE-2B is standing by the door to explain the posters she prepared for this occasion. Once everyone was seated, it was the time for the speeches to be unfolded overflowing with patriotic spirits. The speeches were followed by Namratha of ECE, Aamuktha of CSE-4B & a song by student of ECE girls. Then Nikhil & Adithya of CSE-3B delivered their speeches. They spoke about the problems we are currently facing in the nation and that we should not just celebrate the Independance day but also fight these problems.Then the ECE girls went on to deliver a song (fast beat, great meaning) which was a reminder to all the Indians that it is their duty to serve the nation.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642459945","data":"599fc3c7059c3"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642477619","data":"599fc3ce2c576"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642494763","data":" Next came Saurav from ECE-3A with an important historical anecdote explaining the importance of some great historical figures during Kargil war etc. Being the overall co-ordinator of Stumagz, he introduced Stumagz Avengers to the crowd explaining the functioning of each role and explained about India\u2019s development & role of technology in today\u2019s world & encouraged students in leaning new technologies.Followed by the head of the departments from all the departments spoke on the occasion of Independance day..<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642498599","data":"599fc43d41498"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642610565","data":" This event was followed by an energetic dance performance by the girls of ECE-4B on the song \u201cMa Tujhe Salam\u201d. Excellent choreography, received a lot of applause from the crowd. Then, a different batch of girls sung \u201cDesam Manade Tejam Manade\u201d with a strong message. Following this was a skit by a group of talented girls. Once again, ECE girls, in an incredible unison , had sung a patriotic song. Mohan sir, CSE Dept, raised the warrior spirit of the room with a patriotic poem emphasizing \u201cBe a fighter!\u201d & \u201cmaking India self-dependent\u201d. <\/p><\/p>Then came the much awaited speech of the day by our Secretary Nalla Malla Reddy Sir.He made many notable points such as \"I truly feel the daily wage worker is the biggest contributer in development. Then how much should the literate population contribute?\"\"Be it a county or a tree,everything gradually changes over time\"It was a truly impressive speech which motivated many to rethink about this contemporary world. His rare apperances make his words extremely special. We are always eagerly waiting for Nalla Malla Reddy sir to spread his ideology and the important message to everyone.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642634532","data":"599fc48a3f55e"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642679563","data":" Finally a vote of thanks by our Vice Principal Mr.Nisant Nalla garu, which finally concluded the event . While dispersing ,we were given refreshments.The one thing that was strongly emphasized was \" Never stop serving your nation and take pride in India for being our motherland\". We all promise to always have the patriotic spirit and continue serving our motherland India.JAI HIND!!!!!!!<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642684822","data":"599fc4cd4d37c"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642753831","data":" The events and the participants were:<\/p>1)Singing <\/p>A) \"Desam Manade\" by Harika ,Sreedivya,shivani of ECE-3C. <\/p>B)\"Idhira Bharatam & Bekhauf \" by I.K Priya, Vineetha Reddy , Rithvika ,Amulya , Maheshwari of ECE 4B.<\/p>2)Skit:Performance by Divya Goud ,Prashanthi ,Amulya of ECE 4B.<\/p>3)Dance :A mashup by Maheswari and Amulya of ECE 4B. <\/p> HOST OF THE EVENT: <\/p>Namratha ECE 4B <\/p>Siri Chandana CSE 4B <\/p>Saurav ECE 3A<\/p>"}] {"cover_pic":"https:\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/599fcdcc005f6stryimg","category":"Tech News","is_vip":"0","title":"Let's talk Sarahah","title_id":"let-s-talk-sarahah","isEdit":0,"isAdmin":0,"authorFullName":"Trishna","authorUserName":"trishnabora","authorProfilePic":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/5a5b552de2684profilepic","authorMagzName":"SPHOORTHY","authorCity":"Hyderabad","like_count":41,"cmnt_count":2,"type":1,"isApproved":2,"publishedInName":"SPHOORTHY","publishedInLink":"sphn","publishedInLogo":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/56a730f7830cfprofilepic","publishedInCode":"sphn","country":"IND","keywords":"Sarahah,Tawfiq,App,Feedback,Honest","isBookingEnabled":0,"privacy_status":"1","url":"https:\/\/www.stumagz.com\/let-s-talk-sarahah\/","has_form":0,"is_appln_closed":0,"max_no_of_applns":0,"likeStatus":0} [{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503637842655","data":"Allow me to hit it straight. Intrinsically, 'Sarahah'<\/i> means 'honesty' <\/i>in Arabic. This brain wave was brought into force by a Saudi national and developer--Zain al-Abidin Tawfiq<\/i>. It enables us to send and receive creative yet anonymous messages only to the ones registered with the app. The icing on the cake is that,it doesn't bring the identity of the sender to light (conditions applied,like any other policy). Tawfiq was a part of the global IT circle of Wipro. There was a glitch when it came for the employees to not mince one's words while directing their prospects to their bosses. This mattered a lot to him. Back in November 2016, it was merely a social networking website without any app. Sarahah managed to grab everyone's eye balls since then. Initially, it was a platform of constructive feedback<\/i> only for the employees in the IT firm. Later, it went onto becoming it's existing stage. <\/p>\nAll we need to do is sign up, share our ID and wait till the messages start to pop in. With versions at hand both for android and ios,it is one of the most trending apps. One major facet is that there's no linear way to reply to the received messages. <\/p>Reportedly ,Sarahah is digging this option and working on many other attributes. We can also look around\nfor the ones that are registered. However,we cannot bar a user bluntly. This network of genuineness <\/p>is still in it's newborn phase. As per aforementioned, it only casts to escort a panorama of unadulterated feedback. So, go ahead and get candid with the people you already know!\n"}] {"cover_pic":"https:\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/599fc61811a5estryimg","category":"Whats hot","is_vip":"0","title":"Sarahah: The Social Construct","title_id":"sarahah-the-social-construct","isEdit":0,"isAdmin":0,"authorFullName":"Yash Jain","authorUserName":"yashjain2","authorProfilePic":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/58fe71f29f5ffprofilepic","authorMagzName":"Birla Institute of Technology & Science, Pilani - Hyderabad","authorCity":"Hyderabad","like_count":21,"cmnt_count":1,"type":1,"isApproved":2,"publishedInName":"Birla Institute of Technology & Science, Pilani - Hyderabad","publishedInLink":"bitshyd","publishedInLogo":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/591d682d5d474profilepic","publishedInCode":"bitshyd","country":"IND","keywords":"Sarahah,Constructive Feedback,Social Media,Validation","isBookingEnabled":0,"privacy_status":"1","url":"https:\/\/www.stumagz.com\/sarahah-the-social-construct\/","has_form":0,"is_appln_closed":0,"max_no_of_applns":0,"likeStatus":0} [{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642822819","data":" I recently bumped into this YouTube video about Sarahah app and it's actually quite intriguing. Sarahah, it's already been talked about a lot but the buzz doesn't seem to end. I thought of sharing it because not every person has a sensible manner of thinking about such apps.<\/p><\/p>If you've done something or have an opinion, you are very much aware of the circumstance in which you acted that way. But not everyone will understand that. Regardless of how firm you are to act maturely upon these feedbacks, they do hurt you in some way or the other. So you need not rely upon their perspective, their validation, to take any action. If you're wise enough and really want to improve yourself, talk to someone on whom you trust and who, you believe, will think for your best without judging you. Getting remarks from someone anonymous doesn't make any sense and in my opinion, the ones who care about you and do not have the guts to tell to you in person, those are the ones with \"Meethi chhuri\"!<\/p><\/p>Follow the video below for a better insight. It is majorly in Hindi. So I have provided the English transcript of the same. Watch it and then decide, is it really worthy of your attention or not.<\/p><\/p>\"So recently, there has come an app called 'Sarahah' on social media in which people give constructive feedback. It's a very fun app, constructive feedback and all. But the catch is, there are two points:- <\/p><\/p>1. On social media, you have a lot of friends and many are the backstabbing ones. Backstabbing as in, they pretend to be very nice in front of you. But behind your back, they always have their eyes to double-cross you in any way possible.<\/p>2. Constructive feedback, wherein if we leave aside the majority of the intellectual peeps, the rest interpret the the word 'Constructive' as 'Construction'. What kind of constructive feedback can you expect from such audience? So they remove the word constructive and get back to mere Feedback.<\/p><\/p>What constructive feedback means is the CRC approach; Commendation, Recommendation, Commendation approach. People call it sandwich approach in which you start off with commendation (Eg. \"You're good\"), then you add some feedback, then you mention the areas of improvement. Then you again end up the statement with commendation so the other person feels good about it.<\/p><\/p>But here, the people have a different attitude of theirs, that please don't get me wrong but you're a *beep*. Now with this attitude, what constructive feedback will anyone give. And the people who wanted to make it Tinder, they have successfully done it. \"I like you since my 7th grade. I know that you're committed now, will be marrying soon, but at least for once we can go on a date.\" And the people who're cheap will remain the same way. \"What's your size?\" Like, what're you gonna do it with it anyway? You wanna wear it? \"What's your size\"!<\/p><\/p>So in the past 3-4 days, everyone joined Sarahah app. Even I thought of getting validated on social media so I joined it. Now there are two types of people who give you feedback, the ones who compliment you and the ones who criticize you. As a matter of fact, we are not as affected as much by the former than the latter. In my case, people are just bursting out their frustration. This might be the case with a few of you but for me, that was the sole thing I received.<\/p><\/p>Last night I got a message saying, \"O stammer! I used to do better comedy than you when I was 5 years old. Do better, grow up you!\" And then I was thinking that it was easier to do comedy at the age of 5 because then, people didn't judge you the way you're doing right now. Also, at that time you didn't need to put any efforts because people used to get happy just by seeing you. Issue is, it's tougher to perform in front of the audience at 25. Secondly, I've been stammering since my childhood, you haven't told me anything new. Tell me something new. You might have not known this but I've grown up knowing this.<\/p><\/p>Social media is full of this sort of people. For a fat guy, they'll be saying \"How fat are you? You eat so much, you'll die of it.\" For a skinny guy, \"Hey lanky fellow! What are you doing? Eat something or you'll fly off in the wind.\" For someone who's balding, \"Sir you're getting bald. Get it sorted or people will tease you.\" If someone's black, \"Brother you're too black. I mean, too black, very dark.\" Now what constructive feedback shall one take from such critics and their messages.<\/p><\/p>So in the night, I decided that now it's going over the board. I mean, there were positive messages too but the negative ones were getting more focus. So finally, I deleted my account and removed all the handles on which I posted it and went to bed. Even in the morning I was thinking the same. <\/p><\/p>Then I went to the adjacent room of my parents' where I found our briefcase. That briefcase had all the photo albums since my childhood; the Kodak ones in which we used to paste the postcard size pictures. So I took a look at it. My mother sat next to me and began share the tales of how, when I was young, started drinking from the milk bottle; how I rode the tricycle when I was 3-years old, then the bicycle; how I excelled in my school; how I cried while going to the school; how I later learned to ride a bike, then a car; how i helped in all the family functions.<\/p><\/p>It all went beyond that 'constructive feedback'. Even my father was validating all these incidents. Then I thought that for the sole reason of getting this \"constructive feedback\", we're digging into all these apps, when you can find everything you want in the room next to yours.<\/p><\/p>Technology has changed it all, complicated even the simplest things. If you need the feedback, just walk in to that room. Want to get the validation, the service is available for you. But we rely on a third-party app to get a comment on ourselves from the anonymous person which makes us happy or sad (more often).<\/p>What is going on man!?\"<\/p>"}] {"cover_pic":"https:\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/59a1442d0fcb7stryimg","category":"Blog","is_vip":"0","title":"The Ships Have Come To Carry You Home","title_id":"the-ships-have-come-to-carry-you-home","isEdit":0,"isAdmin":0,"authorFullName":"Shireen","authorUserName":"shireen3","authorProfilePic":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/stumagzprofilepic","authorMagzName":"Birla Institute of Technology & Science, Pilani - Hyderabad","authorCity":"Hyderabad","like_count":12,"cmnt_count":2,"type":1,"isApproved":2,"publishedInName":"Birla Institute of Technology & Science, Pilani - Hyderabad","publishedInLink":"bitshyd","publishedInLogo":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/591d682d5d474profilepic","publishedInCode":"bitshyd","country":"IND","keywords":"Army,Ships","isBookingEnabled":0,"privacy_status":"1","url":"https:\/\/www.stumagz.com\/the-ships-have-come-to-carry-you-home\/","has_form":0,"is_appln_closed":0,"max_no_of_applns":0,"likeStatus":0} [{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503739700192","data":"My brothers are in the Army and it terrifies me every time they are on active duty. The emotional toll it plays on your mind when you're not sure about whether they're going to return alive or not from hostile zones can break even the strongest of people, but I understand the choice they've made. The thing about coming from a privileged family is that we get to make a choice when it comes to career choices. Those among us who are underprivileged see the Army as a viable means of earning a living as well as serving the country, but us privileged folk, as most of my peers in BITS will no doubt identify, have a choice between the Army and the rest, simply because our privilege allows us to have more opportunity for being born with the skin colour and caste society deems is worthy of that respect. <\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503740332393","data":"59a143e70ae74"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503740334084","data":"But the squabbles of caste, skin colour, even enmity and privilege are all insignificant in the face of death, for death comes for all, and death comes for you. It is funny really, people are ready to die and kill for their ideology but they don't realise the fundamental similarity between all humans, we all bleed, we all love, we all cry. An empathetic human being turns into a stony faced monster in the face of ideology, ideology that will make monsters of all of us. There can be no peace until one ideology is proven right, say the power mongers, and for that, we will sit in our comfortable rooms while young men and women live and die for the country and ideology. <\/p>Nonetheless, giving your life up to save those you love is the ultimate sacrifice, the ultimate act of selflessness where you are willing to exchange your own future to ensure the future of those vulnerable. And as much as we glorify the Army in India, we forget that they are just made of people, people like you and me, scared, in a cold and dark place, holding a gun in their hand and following orders. No matter what happens, when they pay the price, the ships will come to carry them home. They will be remembered, by friends, family, the people they saved, and of course politicians using the dead bodies of the Jawans for political mileage instead of fixing real issues of the country. <\/p>Lay down \/ Your sweet and weary head \/ Night is falling \/ You\u2019ve come to journey's endSleep now \/ And dream of the ones who came before \/ They are calling \/ From across the distant shoreWhy do you weep? \/ What are these tears upon your face? \/ Soon you will see \/ All of your fears will pass away \/ Safe in my arms \/ You're only sleepingWhat can you see \/ On the horizon? \/ Why do the white gulls call? \/ Across the sea \/ A pale moon rises...The ships have come to carry you hom <\/i><\/p>"}] {"cover_pic":"https:\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/599fdbe86fdecstryimg","category":"Inspiration","is_vip":"0","title":"5 Habits That Turn Off Negative Thinking","title_id":"5-habits-that-turn-off-negative-thinking","isEdit":0,"isAdmin":0,"authorFullName":"Jadhav Rohit","authorUserName":"jadhavrohit","authorProfilePic":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/5a4c05f535cafprofilepic","authorMagzName":"Vardhaman","authorCity":"Hyderabad","like_count":40,"cmnt_count":2,"type":1,"isApproved":2,"publishedInName":"Vardhaman","publishedInLink":"vardhaman","publishedInLogo":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/56aa69e0012eeprofilepic","publishedInCode":"vardhaman","country":"IND","keywords":"positivethinking,negativethoughts,control,selfhelp,inspiration,determination","isBookingEnabled":0,"privacy_status":"1","url":"https:\/\/www.stumagz.com\/5-habits-that-turn-off-negative-thinking\/","has_form":0,"is_appln_closed":0,"max_no_of_applns":0,"likeStatus":0} [{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503647870998","data":"\u201cWe act how we think and feel. When we remove the negative thought, with it goes the drama and pain.\u201d<\/p> \u2013 Anon. <\/p>\nNegative thoughts serve absolutely no purpose. Zero. None. Not-a-one. Know what else?\n\nNegative thinking has absolutely nothing to do with you as a person. Toxic thoughts don\u2019t define your character, and they can\u2019t determine your destiny. We determine the power of each negative thought. Unfortunately, we often grant negative thoughts too much influence \u2013 and this is what causes damage. <\/p>\nThe Buddha once said: \u201cYour worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.\u201d<\/p>HERE ARE 5 WAYS TO REFRAME NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: <\/b><\/p>\n1. OBSERVE THE THOUGHT<\/b><\/p> \n\nTake a seat in the far back of your mind and simply observe the negative thought. (Think about how you\u2019d watch a bird flutter about on a rooftop.)\n\nNegative thoughts are generally a product of cognitive distortions, or irrational thought patterns, something recognized by psychologists and psychiatrists the world over. You don\u2019t require psychotherapy or medication \u2013 you only need to observe a thought, and then watch it dissipate.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648406513","data":"599fdafca0f15"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648386500","data":" 2. QUESTION ANY RUMINATIONS <\/b><\/p> \n\nRuminations are patterns of overthinking, e.g., \u201cI have this problem, which I can solve if I just keep thinking about it.\u201d Unless you\u2019re actively engaging the frontal lobe of your brain \u2013 that is, attempting to solve a problem \u2013 most ruminations are pointless. The question then becomes \u201cHow do I reframe these thoughts?\u201d Here is a suggested course of action: (a) Create two columns on a sheet of paper. Label the first column \u201cThought\u201d and the second column \u201cSolution.\u201d (b) When the rumination appears, write down the time. Write anything of use in the \u201csolution\u201d column. (c) At the end of the day\/week\/month, count the number of times the thought appeared and any insights. Is there anything of value? If not, re-read #1.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648104429","data":"599fd9ce2e9c8"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648118719","data":" 3. DETERMINE THE EVIDENCE <\/b><\/p>\nAnother way of reframing your thoughts is to evaluate the evidence behind them.\n\nFor example, if you\u2019re always thinking \u201cI never have enough money,\u201d it may be helpful to assess the evidence and come to a solution (if needed).\n\nOnce again, you\u2019ll create two columns. In Column (A) write any supporting proof that you \u201cnever have enough money,\u201d e.g. bank account balance, always asking for money, etc. In Column (B) write any objective evidence demonstrating the contrary, e.g. having shelter, food, clothing, and so on.\n\nWhat information is conveyed through this exercise? Can you say with 100 percent honesty that you \u201cnever have enough money\u201d? If so, what\u2019s the next course of action? Do you create a budget and limit your spending?<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648467203","data":" 4. PRACTICE MINDFULNESS <\/b><\/p> \n\nWhat better place to mention mindfulness than after talking about money \u2013 a near-universal stressor? Christopher Bergland, a three-time champion of the Triple Ironman triathlon and scientist, explains mindfulness as \u201cmuch more basic than most people realize.\u201d Bergland breaks down his approach to mindfulness in three steps: \u201cStop. Breathe. Think about your thinking. Anyone can use this simple mindfulness technique throughout the day to stay calm, focused, optimistic and kind.\u201d Structured mindfulness meditation practices and techniques, such as Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction (MBSR) exist for those people seeking more formal training.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648483663","data":"599fdb4d1cf29"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648442593","data":" 5. UNDERSTAND IMPERMANENCE AND NEUTRALITY <\/b><\/p>\nWe touched on this during the introduction, but it\u2019s worth repeating: negative thoughts are fleeting and temporary; without any real power of their own. No matter what negative thoughts cross your mind, it is crucial to understand these concepts. In fact, you can even create and recite a maxim, for example, \u201cThis is a negative thought. I\u2019ll observe but not engage, as it will quickly flee.\u201d One terrific way to demonstrate the powerlessness of a negative thought is to distract yourself. Do something that will occupy your mind, so there\u2019s no room for the negative thoughts.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648440027","data":"599fdb2a148ea"}] {"cover_pic":"https:\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/59a0adca5d8acstryimg","category":"My Take","is_vip":"0","title":"Ganesh Chaturthi at Home","title_id":"ganesh-chaturthi-at-home","isEdit":0,"isAdmin":0,"authorFullName":"Samhita Pillarisetti","authorUserName":"samhitapillaris","authorProfilePic":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/585c8c9a53a60profilepic","authorMagzName":"St. Francis","authorCity":"Hyderabad","like_count":16,"cmnt_count":1,"type":1,"isApproved":2,"publishedInName":"St. Francis","publishedInLink":"sfc","publishedInLogo":"\/\/cdn.stumagz.com\/images\/57284dfd8b1e4profilepic","publishedInCode":"sfc","country":"IND","keywords":"festival,ganesha,home","isBookingEnabled":0,"privacy_status":"1","url":"https:\/\/www.stumagz.com\/ganesh-chaturthi-at-home\/","has_form":0,"is_appln_closed":0,"max_no_of_applns":0,"likeStatus":0} [{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1489377128421","data":" Vinayaka Chaturthi \u2013 25.08.2017\n\nIn a conversation with my mom yesterday, I told her how Ganesh Chaturthi has always been my favourite festival.\nShe smiles and says \u2013 Do you remember? You would always bring the Ganesh idol by carrying it on your head and place it down saying \u201c Ganapthi Bappa Moriyaaa!!!\u201d . \nI smiled and realized that I don\u2019t remember doing that, but it isn\u2019t surprising. I never was really good at hiding my excitement then, and miserably fail at that even now. \nThis Festival has given me so many beautiful memories that I strongly feel like I owe Vinayaka for all the happiness he has presented me on this day and everyday. I am truly blessed. \n\nNow, when I write about this festival, I realize why this day has been more than dear to me.\n\nThe day started early on this festival. We would be awake by 7 and ready by 9. While mom would get busy in the kitchen making the variety of dishes to be presented to the Lord, I would just run around trying to help and only succeed in distracting her from her work. \nBut, the part I really awaited for was when Dad and I would go out to get the Ganesh Idol and all the \u201csamagri\u201d consisting of \u2018patri\u2019, \u2018pushpam\u2019 and fruits. In half an hour we would be back and then get to the more fun part . We would bring down the \u201cpooja samaan\u201d in the top cupboard , from where they were placed last year. \nDad and I would sit down and then arrange a wonderful platform for the lord and decorate it in the most beautiful way with everything purchased in the morning. This part of the day, when Dad and I sit down to tie threads to the fruits to hang them around the idol, was what I waited for, for an year until the festival arrived again.Then, we would make a garland for the idol and mark our books with haldi and kumkum. \nThese small moments made me feel cherished and created a deeper bond with my dad in those small conversations that we shared. \nSoon, my cousins and grandparents would be home, and dad would get dressed in his white \u2018panchi\u2019 ( dhoti) and \u2018khandoba\u2019. He had just transformed into the pandith for the day. \nAnd then, the pooja would begin and so would our hunger when the Prasad\/Naivedyam is offered to the Ganesha. \nThe story of the festival and the Lord Ganesha was what introduced me to storytelling and their significance ever since I\u2019ve known or remembered this Festival. \nThe pooja would end in an hour, and then our \u201cfood festival\u201d would begin. Our family of nine would gather around the table as the kids sit on the floor, and get up numerous times for second and third servings. \nLord Ganesha had come, and brought joy with him, and just 9 days later, he would depart us , but leaving memories, strength and bonds.\nToday, the festival, the fun, memories and most of everything was there, only the number nine was six, as my cousins were in hostels and my grandma, looking over us form above.\nBut, today was a good day. And I had a wonderful time. Thank you Ganesha. \n\nGanapathi Bappa Moriyaa!!! \n<\/p>"}] Published in clg-short-name Waiting for the approval by Admin Terms and conditions Message OK
Independence Day is a national festival and has equal importance for every Indian regardless of religion, class, creed or race. The way of celebrating is also the same throughout the country and that is the day,when you find whole India celebrating and rejoicing.<\/p>
There was a time when Indians were not aware of the problems going on in the country and the society. But today the younger generation of India has come forward and many raise their voice against the problems in the society.<\/p>
The most important thing is that we remember and pay respect to those who sacrificed their lives for the country.<\/p>
Children look forward for this event because they expect sweets at the end of the celebrations. We being adults, we need to realise the importance of national festivals and make it a point to participate and feel proud as a citizen.<\/p>
On this national holiday , there is a scene of joy, pride and rejoice everywhere. Many programs will be conducted which will bring out our patriotic spirit hidden deep within us.For students, this is a great platform to showcase their talents in these events which is an opportunity to convey a strong message to the audience and empathize with them reminicing the fights we fought and the victories we had and the heroes we lost.<\/p>
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The 71st Independance day was clebrated with great enthusiasim. The event started by the arrival of our Secretary Sir Nalla Malla Reddy garu and his wife,our Chairperson, Shri. Kethi Reddy Sandhya Vali Garu. The flag was hoisted by our chairperson followed by the singing of the national anthem by the choir group and the entire college. There was a voluntary participation by the faculty to sing a patriotic song. The English faculty from the department of MPS\/HSS, Mr.Jitender sir, sung a telugu song and explained its essence beautifully followed a soulful performance by Mr.Balram sir from the Mechanical engineering Dept. <\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642302436","data":"599fc36fc3776"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642419235","data":"599fc3946be5c"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642403185","data":"
Everybody proceeded to the seminar hall where Pavithra of CSE-2B is standing by the door to explain the posters she prepared for this occasion. Once everyone was seated, it was the time for the speeches to be unfolded overflowing with patriotic spirits. The speeches were followed by Namratha of ECE, Aamuktha of CSE-4B & a song by student of ECE girls. Then Nikhil & Adithya of CSE-3B delivered their speeches. They spoke about the problems we are currently facing in the nation and that we should not just celebrate the Independance day but also fight these problems.Then the ECE girls went on to deliver a song (fast beat, great meaning) which was a reminder to all the Indians that it is their duty to serve the nation.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642459945","data":"599fc3c7059c3"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642477619","data":"599fc3ce2c576"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642494763","data":"
Next came Saurav from ECE-3A with an important historical anecdote explaining the importance of some great historical figures during Kargil war etc. Being the overall co-ordinator of Stumagz, he introduced Stumagz Avengers to the crowd explaining the functioning of each role and explained about India\u2019s development & role of technology in today\u2019s world & encouraged students in leaning new technologies.Followed by the head of the departments from all the departments spoke on the occasion of Independance day..<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642498599","data":"599fc43d41498"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642610565","data":"
This event was followed by an energetic dance performance by the girls of ECE-4B on the song \u201cMa Tujhe Salam\u201d. Excellent choreography, received a lot of applause from the crowd. Then, a different batch of girls sung \u201cDesam Manade Tejam Manade\u201d with a strong message. Following this was a skit by a group of talented girls. Once again, ECE girls, in an incredible unison , had sung a patriotic song. Mohan sir, CSE Dept, raised the warrior spirit of the room with a patriotic poem emphasizing \u201cBe a fighter!\u201d & \u201cmaking India self-dependent\u201d. <\/p>
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Then came the much awaited speech of the day by our Secretary Nalla Malla Reddy Sir.He made many notable points such as \"I truly feel the daily wage worker is the biggest contributer in development. Then how much should the literate population contribute?\"\"Be it a county or a tree,everything gradually changes over time\"It was a truly impressive speech which motivated many to rethink about this contemporary world. His rare apperances make his words extremely special. We are always eagerly waiting for Nalla Malla Reddy sir to spread his ideology and the important message to everyone.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642634532","data":"599fc48a3f55e"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642679563","data":"
Finally a vote of thanks by our Vice Principal Mr.Nisant Nalla garu, which finally concluded the event . While dispersing ,we were given refreshments.The one thing that was strongly emphasized was \" Never stop serving your nation and take pride in India for being our motherland\". We all promise to always have the patriotic spirit and continue serving our motherland India.JAI HIND!!!!!!!<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503642684822","data":"599fc4cd4d37c"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503642753831","data":"
The events and the participants were:<\/p>
1)Singing <\/p>
A) \"Desam Manade\" by Harika ,Sreedivya,shivani of ECE-3C. <\/p>
B)\"Idhira Bharatam & Bekhauf \" by I.K Priya, Vineetha Reddy , Rithvika ,Amulya , Maheshwari of ECE 4B.<\/p>
2)Skit:Performance by Divya Goud ,Prashanthi ,Amulya of ECE 4B.<\/p>
3)Dance :A mashup by Maheswari and Amulya of ECE 4B. <\/p>
HOST OF THE EVENT: <\/p>
Namratha ECE 4B <\/p>
Siri Chandana CSE 4B <\/p>
Saurav ECE 3A<\/p>"}]
Allow me to hit it straight. Intrinsically, 'Sarahah'<\/i> means 'honesty' <\/i>in Arabic. This brain wave was brought into force by a Saudi national and developer--Zain al-Abidin Tawfiq<\/i>. It enables us to send and receive creative yet anonymous messages only to the ones registered with the app. The icing on the cake is that,it doesn't bring the identity of the sender to light (conditions applied,like any other policy). Tawfiq was a part of the global IT circle of Wipro. There was a glitch when it came for the employees to not mince one's words while directing their prospects to their bosses. This mattered a lot to him. Back in November 2016, it was merely a social networking website without any app. Sarahah managed to grab everyone's eye balls since then. Initially, it was a platform of constructive feedback<\/i> only for the employees in the IT firm. Later, it went onto becoming it's existing stage. <\/p>\n
All we need to do is sign up, share our ID and wait till the messages start to pop in. With versions at hand both for android and ios,it is one of the most trending apps. One major facet is that there's no linear way to reply to the received messages. <\/p>Reportedly ,Sarahah is digging this option and working on many other attributes. We can also look around\n
for the ones that are registered. However,we cannot bar a user bluntly. This network of genuineness <\/p>is still in it's newborn phase. As per aforementioned, it only casts to escort a panorama of unadulterated feedback. So, go ahead and get candid with the people you already know!\n"}]
I recently bumped into this YouTube video about Sarahah app and it's actually quite intriguing. Sarahah, it's already been talked about a lot but the buzz doesn't seem to end. I thought of sharing it because not every person has a sensible manner of thinking about such apps.<\/p>
If you've done something or have an opinion, you are very much aware of the circumstance in which you acted that way. But not everyone will understand that. Regardless of how firm you are to act maturely upon these feedbacks, they do hurt you in some way or the other. So you need not rely upon their perspective, their validation, to take any action. If you're wise enough and really want to improve yourself, talk to someone on whom you trust and who, you believe, will think for your best without judging you. Getting remarks from someone anonymous doesn't make any sense and in my opinion, the ones who care about you and do not have the guts to tell to you in person, those are the ones with \"Meethi chhuri\"!<\/p>
Follow the video below for a better insight. It is majorly in Hindi. So I have provided the English transcript of the same. Watch it and then decide, is it really worthy of your attention or not.<\/p>
\"So recently, there has come an app called 'Sarahah' on social media in which people give constructive feedback. It's a very fun app, constructive feedback and all. But the catch is, there are two points:- <\/p>
1. On social media, you have a lot of friends and many are the backstabbing ones. Backstabbing as in, they pretend to be very nice in front of you. But behind your back, they always have their eyes to double-cross you in any way possible.<\/p>
2. Constructive feedback, wherein if we leave aside the majority of the intellectual peeps, the rest interpret the the word 'Constructive' as 'Construction'. What kind of constructive feedback can you expect from such audience? So they remove the word constructive and get back to mere Feedback.<\/p>
What constructive feedback means is the CRC approach; Commendation, Recommendation, Commendation approach. People call it sandwich approach in which you start off with commendation (Eg. \"You're good\"), then you add some feedback, then you mention the areas of improvement. Then you again end up the statement with commendation so the other person feels good about it.<\/p>
But here, the people have a different attitude of theirs, that please don't get me wrong but you're a *beep*. Now with this attitude, what constructive feedback will anyone give. And the people who wanted to make it Tinder, they have successfully done it. \"I like you since my 7th grade. I know that you're committed now, will be marrying soon, but at least for once we can go on a date.\" And the people who're cheap will remain the same way. \"What's your size?\" Like, what're you gonna do it with it anyway? You wanna wear it? \"What's your size\"!<\/p>
So in the past 3-4 days, everyone joined Sarahah app. Even I thought of getting validated on social media so I joined it. Now there are two types of people who give you feedback, the ones who compliment you and the ones who criticize you. As a matter of fact, we are not as affected as much by the former than the latter. In my case, people are just bursting out their frustration. This might be the case with a few of you but for me, that was the sole thing I received.<\/p>
Last night I got a message saying, \"O stammer! I used to do better comedy than you when I was 5 years old. Do better, grow up you!\" And then I was thinking that it was easier to do comedy at the age of 5 because then, people didn't judge you the way you're doing right now. Also, at that time you didn't need to put any efforts because people used to get happy just by seeing you. Issue is, it's tougher to perform in front of the audience at 25. Secondly, I've been stammering since my childhood, you haven't told me anything new. Tell me something new. You might have not known this but I've grown up knowing this.<\/p>
Social media is full of this sort of people. For a fat guy, they'll be saying \"How fat are you? You eat so much, you'll die of it.\" For a skinny guy, \"Hey lanky fellow! What are you doing? Eat something or you'll fly off in the wind.\" For someone who's balding, \"Sir you're getting bald. Get it sorted or people will tease you.\" If someone's black, \"Brother you're too black. I mean, too black, very dark.\" Now what constructive feedback shall one take from such critics and their messages.<\/p>
So in the night, I decided that now it's going over the board. I mean, there were positive messages too but the negative ones were getting more focus. So finally, I deleted my account and removed all the handles on which I posted it and went to bed. Even in the morning I was thinking the same. <\/p>
Then I went to the adjacent room of my parents' where I found our briefcase. That briefcase had all the photo albums since my childhood; the Kodak ones in which we used to paste the postcard size pictures. So I took a look at it. My mother sat next to me and began share the tales of how, when I was young, started drinking from the milk bottle; how I rode the tricycle when I was 3-years old, then the bicycle; how I excelled in my school; how I cried while going to the school; how I later learned to ride a bike, then a car; how i helped in all the family functions.<\/p>
It all went beyond that 'constructive feedback'. Even my father was validating all these incidents. Then I thought that for the sole reason of getting this \"constructive feedback\", we're digging into all these apps, when you can find everything you want in the room next to yours.<\/p>
Technology has changed it all, complicated even the simplest things. If you need the feedback, just walk in to that room. Want to get the validation, the service is available for you. But we rely on a third-party app to get a comment on ourselves from the anonymous person which makes us happy or sad (more often).<\/p>
What is going on man!?\"<\/p>"}]
My brothers are in the Army and it terrifies me every time they are on active duty. The emotional toll it plays on your mind when you're not sure about whether they're going to return alive or not from hostile zones can break even the strongest of people, but I understand the choice they've made. The thing about coming from a privileged family is that we get to make a choice when it comes to career choices. Those among us who are underprivileged see the Army as a viable means of earning a living as well as serving the country, but us privileged folk, as most of my peers in BITS will no doubt identify, have a choice between the Army and the rest, simply because our privilege allows us to have more opportunity for being born with the skin colour and caste society deems is worthy of that respect. <\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503740332393","data":"59a143e70ae74"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503740334084","data":"
But the squabbles of caste, skin colour, even enmity and privilege are all insignificant in the face of death, for death comes for all, and death comes for you. It is funny really, people are ready to die and kill for their ideology but they don't realise the fundamental similarity between all humans, we all bleed, we all love, we all cry. An empathetic human being turns into a stony faced monster in the face of ideology, ideology that will make monsters of all of us. There can be no peace until one ideology is proven right, say the power mongers, and for that, we will sit in our comfortable rooms while young men and women live and die for the country and ideology. <\/p>
Nonetheless, giving your life up to save those you love is the ultimate sacrifice, the ultimate act of selflessness where you are willing to exchange your own future to ensure the future of those vulnerable. And as much as we glorify the Army in India, we forget that they are just made of people, people like you and me, scared, in a cold and dark place, holding a gun in their hand and following orders. No matter what happens, when they pay the price, the ships will come to carry them home. They will be remembered, by friends, family, the people they saved, and of course politicians using the dead bodies of the Jawans for political mileage instead of fixing real issues of the country. <\/p>
Lay down \/ Your sweet and weary head \/ Night is falling \/ You\u2019ve come to journey's endSleep now \/ And dream of the ones who came before \/ They are calling \/ From across the distant shoreWhy do you weep? \/ What are these tears upon your face? \/ Soon you will see \/ All of your fears will pass away \/ Safe in my arms \/ You're only sleepingWhat can you see \/ On the horizon? \/ Why do the white gulls call? \/ Across the sea \/ A pale moon rises...The ships have come to carry you hom <\/i><\/p>"}]
\u201cWe act how we think and feel. When we remove the negative thought, with it goes the drama and pain.\u201d<\/p>
\u2013 Anon. <\/p>
\nNegative thoughts serve absolutely no purpose. Zero. None. Not-a-one. Know what else?\n\nNegative thinking has absolutely nothing to do with you as a person. Toxic thoughts don\u2019t define your character, and they can\u2019t determine your destiny. We determine the power of each negative thought. Unfortunately, we often grant negative thoughts too much influence \u2013 and this is what causes damage. <\/p>
\nThe Buddha once said: \u201cYour worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.\u201d<\/p>
HERE ARE 5 WAYS TO REFRAME NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: <\/b><\/p>
\n1. OBSERVE THE THOUGHT<\/b><\/p>
\n\nTake a seat in the far back of your mind and simply observe the negative thought. (Think about how you\u2019d watch a bird flutter about on a rooftop.)\n\nNegative thoughts are generally a product of cognitive distortions, or irrational thought patterns, something recognized by psychologists and psychiatrists the world over. You don\u2019t require psychotherapy or medication \u2013 you only need to observe a thought, and then watch it dissipate.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648406513","data":"599fdafca0f15"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648386500","data":"
2. QUESTION ANY RUMINATIONS <\/b><\/p>
\n\nRuminations are patterns of overthinking, e.g., \u201cI have this problem, which I can solve if I just keep thinking about it.\u201d Unless you\u2019re actively engaging the frontal lobe of your brain \u2013 that is, attempting to solve a problem \u2013 most ruminations are pointless. The question then becomes \u201cHow do I reframe these thoughts?\u201d Here is a suggested course of action: (a) Create two columns on a sheet of paper. Label the first column \u201cThought\u201d and the second column \u201cSolution.\u201d (b) When the rumination appears, write down the time. Write anything of use in the \u201csolution\u201d column. (c) At the end of the day\/week\/month, count the number of times the thought appeared and any insights. Is there anything of value? If not, re-read #1.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648104429","data":"599fd9ce2e9c8"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648118719","data":"
3. DETERMINE THE EVIDENCE <\/b><\/p>
\nAnother way of reframing your thoughts is to evaluate the evidence behind them.\n\nFor example, if you\u2019re always thinking \u201cI never have enough money,\u201d it may be helpful to assess the evidence and come to a solution (if needed).\n\nOnce again, you\u2019ll create two columns. In Column (A) write any supporting proof that you \u201cnever have enough money,\u201d e.g. bank account balance, always asking for money, etc. In Column (B) write any objective evidence demonstrating the contrary, e.g. having shelter, food, clothing, and so on.\n\nWhat information is conveyed through this exercise? Can you say with 100 percent honesty that you \u201cnever have enough money\u201d? If so, what\u2019s the next course of action? Do you create a budget and limit your spending?<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648467203","data":"
4. PRACTICE MINDFULNESS <\/b><\/p>
\n\nWhat better place to mention mindfulness than after talking about money \u2013 a near-universal stressor? Christopher Bergland, a three-time champion of the Triple Ironman triathlon and scientist, explains mindfulness as \u201cmuch more basic than most people realize.\u201d Bergland breaks down his approach to mindfulness in three steps: \u201cStop. Breathe. Think about your thinking. Anyone can use this simple mindfulness technique throughout the day to stay calm, focused, optimistic and kind.\u201d Structured mindfulness meditation practices and techniques, such as Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction (MBSR) exist for those people seeking more formal training.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648483663","data":"599fdb4d1cf29"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1503648442593","data":"
5. UNDERSTAND IMPERMANENCE AND NEUTRALITY <\/b><\/p>
\nWe touched on this during the introduction, but it\u2019s worth repeating: negative thoughts are fleeting and temporary; without any real power of their own. No matter what negative thoughts cross your mind, it is crucial to understand these concepts. In fact, you can even create and recite a maxim, for example, \u201cThis is a negative thought. I\u2019ll observe but not engage, as it will quickly flee.\u201d One terrific way to demonstrate the powerlessness of a negative thought is to distract yourself. Do something that will occupy your mind, so there\u2019s no room for the negative thoughts.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1503648440027","data":"599fdb2a148ea"}]
Vinayaka Chaturthi \u2013 25.08.2017\n\nIn a conversation with my mom yesterday, I told her how Ganesh Chaturthi has always been my favourite festival.\nShe smiles and says \u2013 Do you remember? You would always bring the Ganesh idol by carrying it on your head and place it down saying \u201c Ganapthi Bappa Moriyaaa!!!\u201d . \nI smiled and realized that I don\u2019t remember doing that, but it isn\u2019t surprising. I never was really good at hiding my excitement then, and miserably fail at that even now. \nThis Festival has given me so many beautiful memories that I strongly feel like I owe Vinayaka for all the happiness he has presented me on this day and everyday. I am truly blessed. \n\nNow, when I write about this festival, I realize why this day has been more than dear to me.\n\nThe day started early on this festival. We would be awake by 7 and ready by 9. While mom would get busy in the kitchen making the variety of dishes to be presented to the Lord, I would just run around trying to help and only succeed in distracting her from her work. \nBut, the part I really awaited for was when Dad and I would go out to get the Ganesh Idol and all the \u201csamagri\u201d consisting of \u2018patri\u2019, \u2018pushpam\u2019 and fruits. In half an hour we would be back and then get to the more fun part . We would bring down the \u201cpooja samaan\u201d in the top cupboard , from where they were placed last year. \nDad and I would sit down and then arrange a wonderful platform for the lord and decorate it in the most beautiful way with everything purchased in the morning. This part of the day, when Dad and I sit down to tie threads to the fruits to hang them around the idol, was what I waited for, for an year until the festival arrived again.Then, we would make a garland for the idol and mark our books with haldi and kumkum. \nThese small moments made me feel cherished and created a deeper bond with my dad in those small conversations that we shared. \nSoon, my cousins and grandparents would be home, and dad would get dressed in his white \u2018panchi\u2019 ( dhoti) and \u2018khandoba\u2019. He had just transformed into the pandith for the day. \nAnd then, the pooja would begin and so would our hunger when the Prasad\/Naivedyam is offered to the Ganesha. \nThe story of the festival and the Lord Ganesha was what introduced me to storytelling and their significance ever since I\u2019ve known or remembered this Festival. \nThe pooja would end in an hour, and then our \u201cfood festival\u201d would begin. Our family of nine would gather around the table as the kids sit on the floor, and get up numerous times for second and third servings. \nLord Ganesha had come, and brought joy with him, and just 9 days later, he would depart us , but leaving memories, strength and bonds.\nToday, the festival, the fun, memories and most of everything was there, only the number nine was six, as my cousins were in hostels and my grandma, looking over us form above.\nBut, today was a good day. And I had a wonderful time. Thank you Ganesha. \n\nGanapathi Bappa Moriyaa!!! \n<\/p>"}]
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