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I was trying to write an article after long time and to be honest it was falling apart. Yes, later I realized I was facing writer\u2019s block (as everyone says it). It was nothing new, happens frequently to me. I don\u2019t know why my mind can\u2019t process the thoughts into words. When I put my pen onto the paper it just doesn\u2019t budge. There are ten thousand things buzzing in my mind but why am I hesitating to give them a form?<\/p>
I think there are few reasons why. Fear was the first I could think of, fear of the outcome, fear of criticism from readers, fear of not doing it right. And this is when I feel our defense mechanism comes to rescue i.e. \u2018Perfectionism\u2019. This particular instinct just makes everything even worse than before. We get on a journey to produce commendable piece of work, which doesn\u2019t really happen. <\/p>
I tried to figure out few ways on getting out of this hassle called writer\u2019s block, better description would be paralysis of thinking. Sounds funny and ironical, right? I was facing writer\u2019s block and now, here I am writing an article how to get rid of it.\nFirst step to cure something is diagnosis, and the symptoms which I experienced were as below: <\/p>
\u2022\tNot able to formulate something that makes sense. <\/p>
\u2022\tProcrastinating and squandering my time, eventually postponing writing the article. <\/p>
\u2022\tJust getting stuck with thought of being in state of writer\u2019s block.<\/p>
\u2022\tThinking about the deadline. <\/p>
Now, to control to damage and get out of this situation i.e. finding the cure, I experimented and tried the followings ways. I guess these might help you too; <\/p>
\u2022\tReading a book. <\/p>
\u2022\tProof reading, this was kind of win-win situation for me- Not only I got to distract myself into thinking and writing again but also I could help my friends with proof reading.<\/p>
\u2022\tEngage in physical activity, to get that lazy brain coordination some blood flow.<\/p>
\u2022\tSinging and listening to music, they for sure will help bust the pressure and focus on particular thing.<\/p>
\u2022 Talk to someone close and get advise regarding the creative crisis, who knows when the light-bulb might glow.<\/p>
\u2022\tGathering ideas or information, nothing particularly in sequence. Just random ideas I guess.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1576530394270","data":"5df7ef4756ec1"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1576530394271","data":"
\u2022\tWrite. Yeah, just write even if they are bunch of senseless lines or even random thoughts. <\/p>
\n \u2022\tTake time, get inspiration about the topic and completely understand it.<\/p>"},{"type":"img","id":"img-uid-1576530394272","data":"5df7ef204201f"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1576530394273","data":"
Writer\u2019s block isn\u2019t any permanent paralysis of ability to write, it\u2019s just a phase that can be passed with simple action of writing. So, just don\u2019t give up the next time you get stuck. Keep trying; that\u2019s how we learn and improve, right? <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1576530394274","data":"
Images courtesy: Google photos.<\/p>"}]
Time and again, history has shown that students are among the biggest change-makers whether it is by innovating something or it is by questioning something and demanding for a better one. Be it the Quit India, Civil Disobedience, Dandi Salt Protest or more recently, the Telangana movement or the Jallikattu movement. Students have been the frontrunners of any massive movement demanding a change and that makes them potential power-houses of change for the good of the entire country\/world.<\/p>
Why am I talking about students' protests? <\/p>
Unless you're living under a rock and have no access to social media of any sorts, chances are high that you would have seen and read about the student-led protests going on about the Citizenship Amendment Act, especially in Jamia Milia Islamia and Aligarh Muslim University. Thousands of students are protesting the act and there have been alleged instances of students setting buses on fire and more damage to public property, with the police there responding in a violent manner to control it. While I don't want to go into the details or take a stance on the politics involved, I do want to comment on the way students are protesting there and how it can and should be done. <\/p>
If you look at the 2017 Jallikattu protests in Chennai, one thing that stands out is the way students protested. It was an entirely peaceful protest done in a democratic manner. They did not resort to acts of violence and acts that can be put under the term 'rioting'. Another example that comes to mind is how the Swedish teenager Greta Thunberg has been raising her voice and campaigning on climate change. The Nobel laureate Malala Yousafzai also raised her voice and campaigned in a non-violent manner.<\/p>
This is what I want to convey to students. While students are a major force to initiate and lead any change, it is important for students to understand that it can be done in the right manner, without causing any damage to anyone or any property. Here, it is also important to understand that acts of violence and rioting only result in negative consequences for the students themselves as they can be injured, arrested, jailed, or even worse. <\/p>
While I was reading about the CAA protests, I came across a video of a police officer in Aligarh who urged the students to protest in a peaceful manner and in fact, he even assured them that he will be with them in the protest if it is done in a peaceful, democratic manner.<\/p>
As students, please understand your own potential to cause a change and understand the right way of doing it. You can also write your opinions on stuMagz and let them be known.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1576498781007","data":"
Picture for representational purpose only. <\/i><\/p>"}]
All the four accused in the kidnap, rape and murder of Disha (the name given by the police to the victim) were killed in an alleged \u2018encounter\u2019 early Friday morning near Shadnagar, where they committed the crime.\n\nPost-mortem on the bodies of Arif, the main accused, and Siva, Navin and Chennakeshavulu, is being done at the site, even as hundreds of locals arriving at the encounter site, showering praises on the police and government for handing out instant justice.\n\nCongratulatory messages pouring in on the police and the Telangana Government for the \u2018encounter\u2019, with BSP President Mayawati and celebrities expressing happiness over the justice done to the veterinary doctor.\n\nSocial media too erupts into jubilation. A few political leaders and other handles, however, questioned the manner in which the killings happened. They felt that a due course of law should have taken place.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576387277746},{"data":"
\ufffc\n\nNews\n\nDisha murder case: All four accused killed in \u2018encounter\u2019\n\nK V Kurmanath\u00a0Updated on\u00a0December 07, 2019\n\n\u00a0\n\n\u00a0\u00a0\n\n\ufffcRepresentational image\n\nPolitical leaders question manner in which killings happened\n\nAll the four accused in the kidnap, rape and murder of Disha (the name given by the police to the victim) were killed in an alleged \u2018encounter\u2019 early Friday morning near Shadnagar, where they committed the crime.\n\nPost-mortem on the bodies of Arif, the main accused, and Siva, Navin and Chennakeshavulu, is being done at the site, even as hundreds of locals arriving at the encounter site, showering praises on the police and government for handing out instant justice.\n\nCongratulatory messages pouring in on the police and the Telangana Government for the \u2018encounter\u2019, with BSP President Mayawati and celebrities expressing happiness over the justice done to the veterinary doctor.\n\nSocial media too erupts into jubilation. A few political leaders and other handles, however, questioned the manner in which the killings happened. They felt that a due course of law should have taken place.\n\nAlso read:\u00a0Disha murder case: \u2018Instant justice\u2019 to \u2018Instant gratification\u2019 \u2013 social media abuzz with \u2018encounter\u2019 of accused\n\nThe kin of Disha, celebrities and scores of others welcomed the \u2018encounter\u2019 killings, saying that justice has been done to Disha. Hundreds of residents of Shadnagar reached the place of \u2018encounter\u2019 and shouted slogans, praising the killing.\n\nCyberabad Police Commissioner V C Sajjanar confirmed the encounter and killing of the four. Incidentally, a similar \u2018encounter\u2019 took place in Warangal in 2008 when Sajjanar was the Superintendent of Police there. Three suspects in an acid attack on two girls were killed in an encounter.\n\nThe crime has rocked the nation, with people demanding harsh punishment for the offenders. The Parliament too discussed the issue, with several members expressing anguish at the dastardly act and demanding severe punishment to the perpetrators.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576387414789},{"data":"
Timeline of disha murder <\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576387524006},{"data":"
November 27, 6 pm:\u00a0Disha parks her two-wheeler near Tondupally jn\n\nNovember 27, 9.18 pm:\u00a0She comes back to pick up her bike\n\nNovember 27 9. 22 pm: Calls kin sensing danger\n\nNovember 27, 9.44 pm:\u00a0Her sister finds Disha\u2019s phone switched off\n\nNovember 28, 3 am:\u00a0Disha\u2019s kin files police complaint\n\nNovember 28, 5 am:\u00a0Passer-by finds her charred body\n\nNovember 29:\u00a0Four accused \u2013 Areef, Navin, Siva, Chennakeshavulu held\n\nNovember 30:\u00a0Thousands protest at Shadnagar police station. Accused shifted to high-security Charlapally jail\n\nDecember 1:\u00a0Govt calls for fast-track court for quick trial\n\nDecember 4:\u00a0Court grants a 7-day custody of accused to police\n\nDecember 6:\u00a0Four accused killed in \u2018encounter\u2019 after they tried to escape from the crime scene, where they were brought for reconstruction of scene.\n\nPublished on\u00a0December 06, 2019<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576387562974}]
Women are judged at every point of their life. Every little thing they do is judged, why? As for the answer to why different people different opinions. Some because they think women represent their house and some because they want a good guy to marry a girl. But one thing remains in common with these people they don't consider the feelings and emotions of that woman.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576436196529},{"data":"
We think this judgment problem is only with the people who are narrow-minded or not from a high-fi society, but unfortunately, this problem is also there with the open-minded just because they are subtle in showing their feelings we think they are not judgmental.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576436540208},{"data":"
This judgment is the reason women think twice about talking to these things to even their families. They would be afraid of how they are going to react, would they be disappointed and so on.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576436568084},{"data":"
One of my personal experiences was when I was on the way home and a guy commented on my eyes, given that I was wearing a burqa with niquab. I wish I could say that I retaliated in some way but unfortunately I didn't even tell anyone about it until today because of the fear of being judged.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576436584017},{"data":"
While it is true the guys need to change the view they look at women. The women also need to speak up and not be afraid of being judged, and not judge when someone tells you something like this and try to be as understanding as possible.\u00a0<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576436610958}]
\nA girl,who is determined to fullfill her dad's dream..... A girl who is the most beloved princess of a family.... A girl who single handedly earns and supports her mom's burden...A girl who even dont know what is sex... got raped.....\n\nWe know about NIRBHAYA CASE which was happened in delhi. Today,the culprits are sentenced to death after 7 years. But Is there any impact on our society? Can any girls walk into street without her grandfather or her father or her brother or her husband or her son?or Can any parent send their daughter outside without any tension? \nThe answer is No....we cannot.... after know what is all hapenning around us.A newspaper is never complete without a rape case. The example for this is DISHA, who was brutally raped and murdered by four people.\n\nThe 26- year old\u00a0Priyanka Reddy\u00a0went missing on Wednesday night and was found dead and charred under Chatanpalli bridge in Shadnagar in the outskirts of Hyderabad on Thursday morning. She worked as a veterinarian doctor in Kolluru village.\u00a0\n\nA young veterinarian doctor Priyanka Reddy belongs from Shamshabad (Hyderabad) left her home around 5:30 PM on Wednesday for some clinic work, parked her scooter at Tondupall toll plaza and hired a cab to reach to a private hospital at Gachibowli. Accused saw Priyanka while parking her scooter and made a proper plan to rape her. According to the Police, she returned to the parking area around 9:00 PM and saw that her rear wheel of the scooter was punctured.\n\nAccording to the CCTV footage, two men offered her help in fixing the punctured vehicle and they took her scooter for getting it fixed. Both of them returned after a short period and claimed that all nearby repair shops were closed and they helped her by taking it to another shop, according to the Police. She was waiting for them at an isolated place where some trucks, Lorries were parked.\n\nPriyanka called her sister Bhavya on November 27 at around 9:15 PM on discussing what happened to her. She said that she was not feeling safe and secure. Her sister gives her advice you stand near the toll plaza and be safe, leave your scooter there and take a cab if it is possible. Priyanka disconnected the call and promise her sister that she will call her soon. When Bhavya was trying to call Priyanka around 9:44 PM she observed that her phone was switched off.\n\nAfter waiting for some period, her family and sister went to the toll plaza to search Priyanka, and they searched her at all surrounding areas of the toll plaza, but she wasn\u2019t anywhere. Around 11:00 PM, they filed a missing complaint at Shamshabad police station which is near the toll plaza. The Police had filed a complaint and started doing the investigation and the next morning on Thursday Priyanka\u2019s charred body was found 25Km away from the toll plaza\n\nPriyanka\u2019s dead body was recognized by the necklace and clothes she was wearing on that day. According to the CCTV footage, Police identified that four people are responsible for the Priyanka Reddy murder and rape case and arrested them.\n\nLater,they were encoutered by police in the same spot where disha was raped and murdered. Now the justice is served. But we can't celebrate it wholeheartly. We know that the rate of this incidents is increasing for every 14 hours. Here the justice is served only for Disha but there are so many poor victims ,were justice is not served yet. There will be no change until we bring change in mental condition of these people.\nWe know the problem ,we know the situation ,we know the impact, but what we are doing .... the answer is candle march, tiktok videos, speech, songs against rapist.....\n\nSome of people says that its just because of their dressing style but if a girl \/women wear short clothes then it doesn't mean to seduce them. It's their choice and their body. Don't they have such a right to wear what they want?\n\n\"If rapist is shot dead on the street,the rape cases will come down\"-said by Nirbhaya's father. I agree with it because when we create a fear in society, we can achieved it or atleast we can control it. The government have to take serious action on rapist. They should be hanged in the streets. This is my option. It may be wrong in other's option. Everyone has different options it is based on their knowledge ..... WHAT'S UR OPTION....?????\n\n\n<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576489185648}]
#MyTakeOnDisha<\/u><\/b><\/p>
As we all know about this incident which has happened on 27th of November. Yes, Priyanka reddy, a veterinary doctor who got raped by 4 men. No, the 4 men raped her. <\/p>
Before this happened that girl was scared by looking at them and called to her sister. What is pity thing is her sister couldn't suggest her properly. Her sister just advised her to go to the toll plaza and even she couldn't have enough time to speak on call when she is in danger. And they are many ways, her sister could make a video call and take an immediate action but she didn't do. The girl can make a call to her father rather than calling her sister so that her father may come and also she could share her live location to anyone or she can move to toll plaza without shy. I don't understand what this education made her? What this doctorate taught her? <\/p>
Before talking about a girl, first<\/u><\/b> of all we discuss about parents. A parent should be friendly with their children and a girl should feel free to talk about anything with them. Family is the most important thing every girl's life. So, parents should be free and friendly with them. And the second<\/u><\/b> thing is society, Yes I agree girls should follow some traditions and culture in India specially. Girls should wear proper dress, it shouldn't affect boy's mood. Girls can do anything and everything but at the same time they should thing about their family, culture, status etc. And the third<\/u><\/b> <\/u>thing is movies and social media, frankly in india there is no movie got hit without a kiss in it expect historical movies. This became a rule that every movie should have at least one kiss in it. And majorly alcohol, the actors in movie drinks alcohol and we can see a caption below \"alcohol is injurious to health\" then why to consider that seen in the movie. And the forth<\/u><\/b> thing, to be frank when modi became PM, he banned all the porn videos and there is no specific prostitution place for boys as a result such boys are harassing women and such incidents happens. And fifth<\/u><\/b> thing, our government, I think the politicians are awaken only at the election time. when this incident happened, our KCR should respond on this but he after knowing this he went to marriage in Delhi without responding. and police, I accept the police cannot follow each and every girl but at least if they get any complaint they should take part as their duty. <\/p>
Now talking about a girl, a girl should be strong enough to save herself from evil. A girl should dress herself properly. If a girl feels uncomfortable she should call to emergency and move to a safe place. And if you are going to outskirts or long distance you should share your live location to your trusted person. Most important we should never encourage a boy until your parents agree with him for friendship. There are few boys who always looks after their satisfaction. Not all boys are same. A girl should be careful and she should behave accordingly with the society and family pride.<\/p>
Coming to the disha encounter, I'm not complete happy with that just because it has done before court judgement. Entering into the point we cannot see the things clearly with the help of torch light. The victims said they've placed her things in specific place. The police immediately started to see those things at 3am. In the early morning that too in this season in that mist we couldn't see exactly. And the police said the victims attacked some of the police and the police encountered them on spot. Maybe the victims has to be pre-planned to attack or the police have been pre-planned to encounter them. Also the victim may done a mistake but no family encourages such things. Before the encounter i.e while they're in cherlapally jail, the would have make them to meet their family once. <\/p>
People make many mistakes when they're drunk. Because, drinking alcohol makes our-self unconscious and we don't even know what we are doing and what we are talking. This alcohol should be banned. But this won't happen because a state depends on alcohol. A state earns money through alcohol. For each and every development of state, the central offers only some percentage of money and the other way of income is this alcohol. If they ban this, the people from this state imports that drink from other state thus the other state develops. As a result it won't get banned. The thing is if the person drink he\/she should be conscious and shouldn't hurt anyone. <\/p>
I'm not encouraging the victims also I'm not degrading priyanka. The incident, investigation, judgement, encounter everything made a small mistake some or the other way. <\/p>
I hereby declare that, this is my take on disha encounter and there is no intension to hurt or insult anyone. <\/p>"}]
Then after sometime another bus came that bus also full of passengers but some how I have catched that bus.In boys side, they have held the handle and hung just like TARZON on tree.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575830877488},{"data":"
I gasped for air and looked here and there for a little opening of a window.But all I could see was the crowd and the heads of passengers which was ever increasing with every stop. <\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575831088291},{"data":"
If someone asks how does a crowed bus smells,the answer is simple abnoxious.Its a mix of smoke,body odour, smell of dust and if someone is lucky enough fading the odour of perfume.But the smell of soaked clothes dominates them all.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575831143951},{"data":"
A Busstop came,the bus had stopped for a moment and then once the bus accelerated the voice of a women came from the front Roako bhai ,stop brother .I wondered why this women didn't descend when the bus had stopped earlier.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575831280147},{"data":"
The bus started again and a child started crying.He was crying loudly.It irritated me alot.Almost immediately,someone probably the child's Mother screamed,Buss Kar,varna chamat par jaigi ,Stop it,otherwise ill slap you .The child stopped crying immediately.I could not stop smiling at the kid who gave a very serious look at his mother.He looked just like an unpredictable volcano.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575831404549},{"data":"
A new person,a tough guy entered in the bus making his way with a pair of very heavy shopping bags in his hands and dropped one carelessly on the floor which was unfortunately landed on my foot.See my bad luck this happens because I was standing at the back of ladies section as there was no space. I felt like my foot was smashed under a bulldozer.Yes because the bags contained something metallic in them.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575831647999},{"data":"
I held my scream and wanted to told my foot tightly to give it some path but as there was no space to even move, I stood there bearing it.You may think why I didn't said anything to the person.Well this was because he was tall,heavy,with a big face ,curly beard and curly hair.He looked like a villain right out of Arundhathi movie.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575831919753},{"id":1575832271840,"type":"img","data":"5ded4ad055931"},{"data":"
Finally I got seat,I Sat the feeling was unpredictable.I though like I was in heaven.By looking outside through window, listening to music and seeing nature, it was the wonderful feeling.The best way to experience the divine is through the nature.Headphone plus favourite song plus window seat equal to Heaven. <\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575832251105},{"data":"
We need not look far to find the beauty or peace.Small miracles are all around us.we simply need to look around at all of the great creation to which we belong.Spend some time with nature.If we appreciate nature the way we love money we might just make the world a bit more peaceful and beautiful.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1575832420070}]
Is being a girl means to spend her life in just four walls of her house ?<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576090203991},{"data":"
The question above being asked because of the irrational and undesirable behaviors of men in and outside of homes,where every second girl has to face such situations daily in her routine life.This kind of unexpected behavior is know as sexual harassment.Sexual harassment includes inappropriate touchings,comments about your body,spreading rumours ,remarks,dirty jokes or stories,grabbing,rubbing ,pinching and many more.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576090340223},{"data":"
The victim's of sexual harassment are mostly girls or women.It indicates that it is not safe for girls to move out of their houses.They are harassed every where might be it an educational institute or workplace .Even age is not a concern.Either a little school going girl or a middle aged lady all are same in the eyes of harassers. <\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576090338876},{"data":"
The main two reasons why women's are lack of self-confidence is ; 1st one is the way in which men and women are brought up in India strongly influences their behaviour in an arganized way.women often lack of self confidence because of the way they have been socialized and are customized to suffer in silence.And the second main reason is due to fear factor.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576091147457},{"id":1576092924679,"type":"img","data":"5df144fcf10ee"},{"data":"
I would like to clear the situations which girls have to face at different places by giving a true example,which I experienced.One day when my college was finished I took a bus like millions of others do.I was comfortable being travelling alone because I'm the only one coming to college from far place.Even when I was a child,I was sent alone to stationery and to bring groceries from the market,whereas other girls of my age were not allowed to do that.So,I was standing in the bus as usual the bus was full of passengers.Suddenly I felt like someone was touching my hands and making weird sounds.I thought that I was in the girls section so someone might be chi-chatting and that to the bus was full.After 15 minutes I still felt the same.Then I turned back and saw one guy was standing back of me and he gave a weird smile.I was feeling uncomfortable,I didn't said anything to him and went away from there.Then I went and stood near the bus driver's seat,there also he came and asked me \"dhiguthara\"(\"would you like to get off the bus\").I was frightened and I said yes and I got off the bus.I took another bus and I sat .After 5 minutes the same guy came and stood near me and he was touching inappropriately.I was very angry and I asked \"what is your problem?Don't you have sister's at home?\" And then I complained to the conductor.He slapped him and warned him strictly.And everyone in the bus scolded him and threw him out off the bus.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576091050664},{"data":"
Through this what I want to say is that if I was able to scold him in the first bus,the he wouldn't come to the second bus and to this to me.Every second girl in the world has to face such situations daily.Sexual harassment is illegal.If a girl is being harassed then she need not to be afraid but try to fight against it and get the harassed punished.If she is being sexually harassed then she should tell Some one who could help her as I did.<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576092456592},{"data":"
So guys whatever happens with you react then and there itself.Stand up,speak out and take back your life.You are not to blame.If you want something done right,do it yourself.\"BE LOUD BE PROUD\".<\/p>","type":"txt","id":1576092760838}]
I was walking down the street covered from head to toe, <\/p>
So that society had no reason to say <\/p>
Oh! This girl is just putting on a show,<\/p>
<\/p>
Isn't this my world just as much as it's yours<\/p>
So why should I be the one not allowed to roam late at night? <\/p>
Why should I be the one to cover up my skin and wear on tights? <\/p>
And above all, why should I be the one to take the blame when a man has no shame?<\/p>
When I was touched, looked at or spoken to in a sickening manner <\/p>
these formed scars,\nScars that remind me to fight- to fight<\/p>
So that my future daughter can walk fearlessly even when strange men are in sight.<\/p>
For every girl, young and old it doesn't matter what you have been told; <\/p>
You need to fight and believe in your rights or the rapist out there will win our fight. <\/p>
Every man out there who hurt a girl,<\/p>
you better repent or you will be fate's next victim.<\/p>
\nIf you want to touch a woman you ask for her permission or,<\/p>
I promise one day it will be my life's mission to see you rot in the darkest prison. <\/p>
I am the target it's my word against yours<\/p>
So get off your high horse;<\/p>
Because this is my world just as much as it's yours...<\/p>"}]
Ever since the gruesome rape and murder of a Hyderabad based veterinarian came to light, social media has been abuzz with a wide range of reactions with some calling for immediate death penalty to the rapists and others talking about the rape culture in this country and yet others blaming it on one particular religion without any semblance of common sense. <\/p>
While these knee-jerk reactions are just that, without any impact whatsoever on the status quo, the most disturbing posts on social media are the ones who call the rape right, who say women also enjoy being raped, who say rape isn\u2019t the fault of men as it is the women who arouse them, etc. These are the minds that are responsible for propagating the rape culture in my country.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1575379757888","data":"
What is it about people of my gender that makes us think that a woman exists only for my sexual pleasure? Why are women seen as conquests? If you are reading this, you are most likely a college student and you and your friends would have most likely looked at a woman in your college who fits the societal standards of beauty and thought to yourself \u201carei ii pori kirrak undi ra, dinni esinodiki masthu sukham\u201d or some nonsense like that. Why am I able to say these words here? It is because these are the words I kept hearing in college around me and I don\u2019t think the situation is any different now. Just the choice of words here speaks a lot about the way all of us think. It is \u2018pori ni eyyadam\u2019 and not consensually making love to her. It again treats a woman like an object of conquest. <\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1575379757889","data":"
As I write this, a lot of memories keep flooding into my head. I was in a corporate college 12 years ago, doing my intermediate. There, one lecturer, who most likely was a father of a teenager himself, told the all-boys class that it is okay to comment at a random girl on the roads as the girls themselves like that. I wondered then and I wonder now as to who informed this gentleman that women like being commented and catcalled upon roads, which is conveniently termed eve-teasing. Though I knew it was wrong, I didn\u2019t tell him but I would like to tell him now that it is sexual harassment. <\/p>
Another instance that pops up into my head happened in that college. I was sitting next to a window in a classroom and there was one guy next to me, looking at a woman walking on the road below. She was wearing a burqa with only her hands visible and this guy next to me said \u201clook at her hands\u201d and was visibly aroused just by the sight of her hands.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1575379757890","data":"
There was yet another instance when I spoke to a rapist, who told me that women wear revealing clothes (in his definition, a short sleeved kurti without a dupatta was revealing) and arouse men and if a woman is willing to be physically involved with her romantic partner without being married to him, what problem should she have if someone wants to rape her. This rapist didn\u2019t even realise that he countered his own point when he said \u201cphysically involved with her romantic partner\u201d. His oxymoronic words just left me stunned.<\/p>
Women are just objects of sexual desire and nothing else, for many men here. Women are also to be blamed for men being aroused, according to these very men. I would like to ask what a toddler who was raped did to arouse someone or what a random woman wearing a burqa walking by on the road did something to arouse a teenager sitting several floors above her in a building that she probably didn\u2019t even think of or what a woman minding her own business in a college canteen did to warrant lusty eyes looking at her.<\/p>"},{"type":"txt","id":"rich_1575379757891","data":"
It is that mindset that needs to change. Till then, rapes will not stop. Period.<\/p>
Because this is stuMagz that I am writing this on, I personally request every student that is reading this to do your part to ensure women in our country are safe. Sensitise yourself and sensitise people around you. <\/p>"}]
A gruesome and saddening incident happened last week that left me sleepless and worried about where we are headed to. A young veterinarian was brutally gang-raped, smothered and her body was burnt alive on a road on the outskirts of Hyderabad, in an incident that is being termed by some media houses as Hyderabad's Nirbhaya case. I will not go into the details of the case as it has been extensively covered in many media outlets but what I do want to talk about is the questions this incident brought up to my mind and I want to raise those questions.<\/p>
The accused rapists (three of whom are less than 21 years old) were reportedly intoxicated on alcohol and my question here is, why does a scenario exist where someone younger than the legal drinking age can buy alcohol? Yeah, some are saying that alcohol should be banned but that will open up a whole new can of worms altogether (which I don't want to go into now) but the main question is, why do underage people have access to alcohol? Why hasn't the license of the alcohol shop where these people acquired it, been cancelled after this?<\/p>
Another question I want to raise is to the people who are reacting on this issue on social media. While the ones who are giving knee-jerk reactions and conducting candle-light vigils are not doing anything apart from just doing that, the biggest concern here is about the ones who are saying that the girl deserves to be raped or the rape isn't wrong or whichever form of victim blaming that many in our country are known for doing. Why isn't there a sensitisation among rural youth, especially blue-collar workers (who, coincidentally, were the section of society that perpetrated the 2012 Delhi rape case)?<\/p>
There are also a section of people who are saying it is because there was a muslim guy among the accused that it happened. Why is there an unnecessary selective rage that doesn't make any sense? And to all the ones who are reacting on social media and are being arm-chair-activists, I would like to ask if they did anything to sensitise the men around them?<\/p>
When I talk about sensitisation, I believe it is the most crucial thing that needs to be done apart from changing the law to give out quick justice. Punishment already exists but it stopped being a deterrent, if the increase in the number of rape cases is anything to go by. The government should probably conduct awareness and sensitisation sessions in rural areas and students can do their part by volunteering to conduct such sessions in villages near colleges at the very least.<\/p>
Colleges on their part, can and should conduct gender sensitisation sessions for students right in the first year itself.<\/p>
As the Gandhian quote goes, be the change that you want to see in the world and let's all work towards making this a better, safer place for women. <\/p>
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